Having the same issue, how do you 'change one' ?
The issue is using a tb3 to displayport adapter it is only connecting to the UHD 630, as is the desktop.
Only when you run a game will it use asus link adapter (which will then be listed as a separate monitor in addition to desktop, with the HMD listed as another, still connected to the UHD 630).
Opening the TB3 applet doesn't give any options with the tb3 to dp adapter, on its own or with the HMD plugged into it, no way to tell it to use the RTX 2060 by default.
For reference I'm using the KiWiBird TB3 to displayport adapter, but I don't think it's the adapters compatibility, it's that you can't select the graphics card the port uses.
I'm wondering if an egpu would suffer the same problems.